I have been struggling over the last year. The struggle came when God showed me my call to love and care for teenagers in the City of Tacoma. The struggle is that I am a wife to my husband and a mom to 3 little boys (9,7 and 3). How does my calling to care for teenagers work with being a wife and a momma? Should I feel guilty for leaving my boys with grandma so I can take teenage girls out to coffee after school? Should I feel guilty that I often (during the day and in the evening) need to work on e-mail to communicate needs and advocate for teenagers that I live life with? Should I feel guilty spending all Friday afternoon and evening with the football team at Lincoln HS? These are the questions that are running through my head. Sometimes I need to be away from my family in order to care well for the teens in my life; other times my family is an active part in caring for the teenagers (having teens over for dinner, picking teens up from school, hosting events at our home, going out to frozen yogurt, having an open door policy for teenagers, etc...)
Recently I started reading this book.
I'm not even done reading it but, this morning as I read it, it was confirmation from the Spirit of what I am called to do and that I am called to seek God first and obey what He calls me to do. The word "missional" gets thrown around a lot these days. Missional means to make disciples of Jesus this includes those who believe and those who don't believe in Jesus. It's life on life with people no matter where you and what you are doing. (Thanks Soma Tacoma for helping me understand this more and more!)
Helen Lee says, "Missional moms find ways to affirm their roles as mothers and wives without losing sight of their ultimate calling - to pursue God first and foremost and to live out the mission He has given"
We are in a new season of life. Our boys are getting older and more independent. They don't need me in the same way they did when they were babies or toddlers. It looks different.When they were little I spent a lot of time developing relationships with moms that I met at the park or encouraging other moms in our neighborhood and church community.
There should be no guilt associated with my calling. That guilt comes from me believing the lie that I am created to only be a wife and mom. Being a wife and mom is part of my calling but NOT my only calling.
"Our greatest and most constant temptation as parents is to unseat the Sovereign from His throne and replace Him with our family." says author Leslie Fields.
I really believe that many moms buy into the belief that they are called to be a wife and mom and that's it. I've seen moms focus so much on their own family that they miss countless opportunities to live out the other areas they are called to.
Ultimately Jesus wants our hearts and desires for us to seek Him first. Being a wife and mom is a great calling but it's not my only calling. What else is Jesus calling you to?